Physical fitness is the key to the success of famous athletes. Their physical fitness begins with a desire to be better than the next athlete, as well as to be the best at what they do. This mindset enables them to prepare their mind as well as their bodies for success.
Being mentally ready helps them to do the requisite things, such as working out consistently to fine-tune their skills, maintaining a diet that supports their physical health, and adhering to team rules.
These are all similar to the care that should be put into fit relationships.
Fit relationships also begins with being emotionally mature enough to give your best self. This mental preparedness means honesty and authenticity with yourself and others. These qualities allow you to be vulnerable and conscious of your emotions. They fuel a desire to love unconditionally in spite of past relationship failures.
In your relationship, your emotional fitness will help you work through the inevitable conflicts that occur from personal differences. While it may take two to Tango, it begins with the one.
This is because we have control over only our own actions.
Just as you can take steps to be more physically fit, you can also take steps to become fitter in your relationship.
Developing the following traits will help strengthen your fitness in your relationship:
Respect. Every human being craves and deserves respect, including you. So, take it for yourself and give it freely.
Loyalty. Be a true team player and “have the back” of your partner and others with whom you interrelate. Show your partner that your support is unwavering.
Be a friend first. Many people credit their life-long relationships to the fact that their partner becomes their best friend. A best friend supports you with their unconditional love. Doesn’t your partner deserve this too?
Understanding. None of us are perfect; we come with our own unique flaws. Your partner’s uniqueness is one reason you fell in love with them. Be patient and understanding. Put yourself in their shoes. It will help you to understand their perspective.
Tolerance. This is often difficult, yet therein lies the beauty of who we are. Cultures, race, ethnicity and socialization shape us and color us differently, like a rainbow. It is wise to hold off on judgements and criticisms.
Kindness. A little kindness goes a long way into sweetening relationships and reminding people why they appreciate you.
Trust. The key is to trust first and give your partner room for errors.
Independence. Avoid depending on your partner to provide your whole life. It’s important to spend some time alone and with others. Develop some separate hobbies and build friendships. You and your partner will both benefit.
Stay polite! As we become comfortable with our partners, we have a tendency to forgo pleasantries and stop saying “thank you” and “please”. This can be such a little thing that makes such a big impact! Yes they took out the trash, if needed to be done, acknowledging it can go a long way!
Stay curious. As we get to know people, we may feel we know what they are going to do or say before they have a chance to do it. While it shows how close you have become, don’t fall into a rut and assume they will always do what you expect. For them to grow (and your relationship) you must let them try out new ways of thinking and showing up. Besides, aren’t surprises fun?
Being fit in your relationship takes courage to reveal your better self. It means pushing past the hurt, miscommunication, and self-love that are often misguided and damaging to the relationship.
A fit relationship exercises rules that push you to make wise choices and be purposeful in building a better you and a relationship that lasts.
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